Cheryl Besner: Memorable never stems from mediocre!
Imagine this: You’ve just finished dinner at a restaurant you’d been dying to dine at for months. Your friends had raved about it to you, assuring you that you were going to love the menu and would want to return again and again. It wouldn’t have been a stretch to say that you’d been waiting for this meal with mouth-watering anticipation!
Then, then bill comes… and you can’t help but think that the experience was not worth the price of the meal. The food was just OK, and mediocre simply doesn’t tempt your palate.
A first date can often resemble this! Many individuals don’t know how to spice things up and entice the other person to come back for seconds, thirds, and even dessert!
Of course, this disappointment can be avoided by taking steps to make your evening memorable – not mediocre. Make sure that when you part ways at the end of the night, your date can’t stop thinking about you for days and raves about you to all their friends. Be the delicious dish they can’t wait to sample again!
How do you accomplish this feat, you ask?
Easy! It’s a simple recipe and some prep time!
Here are 3 main ingredients you need to whip up a perfect first date:
1) Dress to impress! Wear something unique that shows off your personality. Consider accessorizing with a piece that relates to a happy or important time in your life, as it may serve as the jumping-off point for some whimsical conversation.
2) Keep a list in your mind of topics that will stimulate conversation. Forget the weather or anything too safe or boring. We want memorable, not yawning! Think of some exciting upcoming plans that you can share with your date. Vacations always make for fun discussion – you can ask them about their favourite destinations or where they’ve always dreamed of visiting. (My recent blog on icebreakers elaborates more on this.)
3) Learn your body language dos and don’ts. What may seem friendly and playful to you could come across as too sexual for a first date. Initiating light physical contact early on is a great way to make you both feel connected and relaxed. A brief, gentle touch of your hand on your date’s forearm during a conversation makes the just the right statement – but be careful not to let it linger more than a second or two!
Don’t let your stale love life leave you hungry! Make 2016 the year you feast on what you desire and deserve.
And if you feel you are always the amuse-bouche and never the main course, I can help you get “the whole enchilada”! Write to me or call my dateline at 844-744-SOLO for advice.
– Cheryl xo
