Lost in translation

The forgotten language of love in the digital age

“You light up my life!”

It’s a phrase from days gone by (we used to say) when the person we liked would pick up the phone and call our home phone. Sadly, today, the objects of our affection light up our screens!

We don’t communicate properly anymore! How are two people supposed to build an intimate relationship when pillow talk has a plate of glass between you?

Here’s how it goes today…

Two people meet, an exchange of numbers…”call me!” Great, looking forward to it! Then, what happens? You light up my screen! The text message! Ugh! So anticlimactic.

In addition to how we communicate, we are even now programmed differently on how to meet people. We no longer look right or left at the people around us…Instead we swipe right or left on apps like Tinder, our heads bowed looking at a screen that fits in the palm of our hands. We glance at images of people we may want to meet some day with the perception that tomorrow’s lineup may be even better than today’s, so why settle?

What’s a person to do when we live in such a fast-paced instant gratification society and all we want is an old-fashioned relationship?

I give dating advice to clients all the time on how to slow it down and get connected. I am not alone in my views and antidotes on the traditional art of relating, dating and potentially mating. I read this article and couldn’t have said it better myself, so thought I would share it with you! Let me know what you think!

– Cheryl xo