“What can a MATCHMAKER do for YOU”?

There are many different ways to meet people in today’s “modern dating” world and it’s almost overwhelming. We have all kinds of dating sites and apps and with all the social media platforms accessible at a click of a button; it has truly become challenging to meet someone for those looking for a serious relationship.

With online dating, many post fake profiles just to attract people to them and eventually when they decide to meet up, one person ends up disappointed realizing that the person they’ve been exchanging with in the virtual world seemed a lot more appealing; results? A dead end with an empty feeling for being misled.

Cheryl: “People don’t know what to put out there on that first date…also I often hear well they lied to me about this or that…”

Anyone can register on the online dating websites so for the most part, there’s no screening or “checking boxes” for authenticity. Some websites do require some kind of verification but most often, the authentication techniques are weak, therefore anyone can easily be accepted.

Cheryl: “The best thing is to get to a Skype to avoid the Pinocchio syndrome…exactly know who it is that you’re meeting…”

Many people don’t know or realize that another option is available. A matchmaker service is able to satisfy the customer in ways an online dating company never could. The main difference is in the system itself. Well, think about it, an online dating service is a computer generated software system with no human interaction involved in the process. However, with a matchmaker, you work one on one with a real person to help you find your “match”. There is no algorithm in existence that can replace due diligence, intuition and human communication.

Joan: “As a matchmaker, we want to know who you are, how you live, what’s important to you, and to bring these people to you, put them on your path so you can actually meet them.

Matchmaker services are designed to help support you find the right person by avoiding detours and false information as well as defining your lifestyle, values and Goals. They also help clients overcome limiting beliefs as to the possibility of finding Mr or Mrs Right while aligning expectations of the right person when you have that specific goal in mind; finding your “love mate”.

A matchmaker service does a complete background check of all their clients before working with them, which eliminates the surprise factor.

Joan: “It’s fun to bring these people together where their paths wouldn’t have crossed…that’s where a matchmaker plays a very important role…technology and social media does not help bring people together, in fact it does the opposite so the matchmaker comes in, we get to know people, we introduce people to other people we know, our work is sort of old fashioned, traditional and it works…”

It’s an investment for clients involved and dating is taken way more seriously in this case as there are fees attached to using a matchmaking service. So the client will be there for the right reasons, to find a person to enter into a committed relationship.

Joan: “ You have to talk face to face, no texting no emails, texting is the best way to miss communicate your feelings, especially online dating where people text for weeks before meeting…it’s a non starter from the beginning…we believe strongly for people to meet face to face.”

For all those who have trouble carrying long term relationships or have simply been out of the loop in the dating pool, matchmaking could be the perfect vehicle to finding love. Matchmakers can also give you coaching sessions to bring you “up to date” in the dating world that has changed tremendously, especially now with all the online interactions, the emails and the texting.

Matchmakers and relationship coaches can guide you in taking your time while getting to know the other person instead of rushing or exposing too much at once.  They can give you dating tips and tools that will help ease your dating life. It’s all in the communication which is key!!

Joan: “I think that on a first date, you shouldn’t get into past relationships, you should be talking about yourself, getting to know the other person… keeping it light, that’s the advice we would give… also if I’m out on a date I wouldn’t wanna know who he went out with last week, it would shut me down…”

Joan: “We as matchmakers have a lot of problems dealing with the exit strategy. Often if someone’s not interested, they’ll say, you know I’m not really ready for a relationship and the other person will say why you introduced me to somebody who’s not serious, not looking for a relationship which is not the case…”

Cheryl: “That forty five minute date rule that you and I both attest to, eliminates having to lie and make up an excuse, it gives you a fine amount of time to be together and then you can leave at the end of that because it’s been defined that you’re going to. ”

Joan: “When you arrive to meet somebody and you have that first second where you decide okay this is good or this is not good, from that point on, you have a decision to make; you’re either gonna say okay I’m gonna stick this out for forty five minutes or you can also order a beer or some wine and see where this can go …and you could be pleasantly surprised. Even if you’re having the best forty five minutes of your life, keep it at forty five minutes and then look forward to the next meeting and stick to that rule, it works…”

Joan: “The matchmaker is really 100% dedicated to finding the right person for you even if it’s not a person they like, it makes no difference, what a matchmaker is looking for in a match, are three fundamental things: chemistry is not negotiable, it has to be there, values and compatible lifestyles…”

Cheryl: “Everything about life is mindset, you can choose to walk into a room and decide I’m gonna have an awful time, chances are you will…but it’s your positive attitude that’s gonna make a difference. People think that matchmaking is easy…it’s not, there’s a lot of strategy that goes into it, a lot of work, a lot of recruitment and vetting that goes into matchmaking…”

No matter what means you are comfortable using to meet that special someone, you have to make sure of what it is that you’re looking for in a relationship. It is important to know who you are and be crystal clear on your lifestyle, values and goals. That is a great start on your path to finding your “love mate”. Remember love your life and your love life will happen. Be open, get started and put yourself out there!

If you need any dating advice, matchmaking service or my support in your love life, please do not hesitate to reach out to me 1-844-744-SOLO (7656).

Cheryl xo