“3 Steps to ending your dating frustrations forever!”

Have you ever come home from yet another dreadful date, feeling exhausted and exasperated that you just wasted two hours of you precious time that could have been spent with your dog? Have you lost faith in finding someone compatible resigning yourself to being single forever? Have you wanted to give up on dating? Well rest assured; you’re NOT alone!

STEP 1: Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs: It’s so normal to get frustrated after numerous “bad dates”, breakups or divorce.  We often ask: is it me? Is it them? What’s going on? Why can’t I meet someone that sticks around or wants the same things that I do? The emotional connection to these questions has caused people to build walls to protect their hearts from getting hurt.

Cheryl: “Everything that we’ve experienced teaches us something, we can look at it as something that we regret but if you change that mindset which is number one…it becomes a positive, it becomes a lesson learned and not something we regret, so first step is limiting beliefs and the alignment of how they have to come together…”

Alexis: “Every experience that I’ve gone through has brought me to where I am today and I’m happy of where I am…When I talk about limiting beliefs it’s that we’ve had so many times where we’ve heard things over and over again…or that we’ve seen evidence of, then we start taking that evidence as truth…and as we form these beliefs, we start having certain feelings associated with them, from these feeling, we’re gonna take certain actions…because I was open…I met my husband within a few short months…”

Most people perceive relationships that have ended as failure instead of lessons to better ourselves and future relationships.

Cheryl: “Our beliefs are put into action, if we believe there are no good men out there; we stay home, so why go out? So the belief becomes action and the action stops results… How can you have a different result if your mindset is not in line with where you want to be? You have to align your mindset to the result you actually want.”

Alexis: “You will continue getting the same result if you don’t change that initial belief first…what we often don’t see is that we can flip those around…”

The key to limited beliefs is to break that pattern which will ultimately stop creating road blocks.  Take this necessary first step to progress towards your happier life.

STEP 2: Lose the Baggage: If you have had bad experiences in the past, don’t let those define your current or future relationships. Stop assuming or jumping to the conclusion that everyone is like your ex. History does not have to repeat itself and won’t if you learn lessons instead of dragging the “EX”cess weight of your past along!

Cheryl: “I don’t like to talk about baggage, I like to talk about history, because to me baggage is something really heavy, something you drag around…It’s about transforming our past relationships into the positive…”

Alexis: “It’s only baggage when we allow it to hold us back…if you look at it as history; you look at it as it has taught you lessons…You can rewrite your own story…many of us have been through relationships, through heart breaks and it’s the meaning that you’re going to choose to give it, that’s going to create the next experience in the relationship that you’re going to have…”

Step 3: Meeting new People: Stop thinking Oh, there are no good men or women out there, that they are all taken, I’m done, why would I even bother, I won’t meet anyone anyway. That kind of thought will lead only to your couch, alone, with a pint of ice cream like Bridgett Jones and is that where you want to be? A positive mindset will not only help you in your love life, but also benefit your everyday life. You have one life to live, make sure it is the one you want, need and deserve and step out start living that life NOW!

Cheryl: “I try to eliminate the word TRY…You’re not going to try to do something or meet someone, you are going to DO…it’s like the NIKE commercial, JUST DO IT…you have to talk the talk to walk the walk…”

Whether you meet someone online, at the corner store or decide to use a matchmaker to reach your relationship goal, it ALL comes down to your mindset and getting OUT. You have to be in the right stage of your life, be open to meeting people and put yourself out there 100 percent. Most importantly, you have to know your lifestyle, values and goals so that you can align yourself with the right of person. Go where the person you desire hangs out. Lastly, don’t be ashamed to tell friends, family and coworkers that you would like to meet someone and to keep you in mind.

 Alexis: “I hear a lot of complaints about online dating, it’s one way to do it and it can be effective but it’s not the only way…what’s happening with these apps like bumble tinder…is that they’re taking away from some of the traditional dating values…that behind the scenes men and women are wanting, needing…where to meet people? I’d like for you to think about what your interests are, for example if you wanna meet a guy…who likes to travels, likes the outdoors, you have to put yourself in some of those spaces or those situations that he may be hanging…”

If your goal is to meet someone, then you have to believe that YOU CAN and that leads to YOU WILL. You have to have the right attitude, be ready, willing and open to that and have a fresh outlook. You have to be determined and trust that there is someone compatible out there for you. If you change your mindset and the way you define frustration and failure, you will allow yourself to reshape your beliefs and approach towards relationships. Remember likes attract likes!

As your “love optometrist” wink…I suggest that you adjust your “love glasses” to gain clarity so that you can focus on the good. Love is choosing to see and cultivate the good in you as well in another person, rather than accentuating the bad. Love and own who you are as a person and push past your frustrations in life and keep learning as you will cross the finish live. Never give up as if you love your life, your love life will happen!

If you need any dating advice or my support, please do not hesitate to reach out to me 1-844-744-SOLO (7656). I promise to keep you on your toes and “up to date “in your love life. With all the dating sites, apps and social media available in today’s dating world, it has become overwhelming and quite challenging as to how to go about dating

Cheryl xo