“Choosing The Right One And Letting The Others Go”

How do you know that you have met “the one”, that special someone who walks into your life, makes an impression that sweeps off your feet, knocking all the others out from your line of vision?

Cheryl: “What was it that was different about your beloved?

Karl: “I knew when I first saw her the first time… there was just something in her eyes that I recognized right away, did a double take but then when I spoke to her, I realized she was incredibly smart and the thing that really got me in the beginning and still to this day, it’s so important in our relationship was that she’s really funny, she made me laugh from day one and still does.”

Love is very unique and individual experience and everyone has their own interpretation of what meeting or choosing “the one” means. Whether it’s the feeling you have from the first time you lay eyes on that person, or those butterflies you feel deep in the bit of your stomach that don’t keep fluttering just thinking about their smile or how their skin feels. Maybe it’s knowing you are truly being seen and appreciated for the first time and have never been treated with such love or respect. It could also be receiving unexpected love notes that melt your heart away. Whatever triggered your connection it all comes down to your intuition knowing that you have met someone truly special and hopefully you listen to it!

Julie: “You gotta be comfortable with each other… you just wanna be able to be your best self and I think that’s what people should look for qualitatively when they’re exploring each other…It’s good to have suitors …while that’s happening you gotta really look and see… who is it that brings out the best in you and for whom do you bring out their best …make your decisions based on that stuff… look and see if the values and the passions line up and if you’re comfortable together.”

You know you’ve met “the one” because you feel it in your heart, in your gut and hopefully your head is involved as well. We all have intuition and most of the time if we are open and let it guide us; we end up where we should be…possibly with that person!

By the way, sometimes that same intuition tells you that those butterflies are really moths but because we get those love letters we choose to keep fluttering until we can’t deny the holes that are being created by those nasty insects!!! GET THE SPRAY!!

Julie: “Look for your failures, look at the last few relationships that you had and look and see what are the common denominators…see where your blind spot it …what made this person wrong for you…and don’t take on another partner who has those same qualities.” we all have this ideal person lodged in our mind, that perfect person for us…that person is really a fantasy and every real live person you meet out there is in direct competition with that fantasy image and I encourage you all not to get caught tin this trap.”

SIDEBAR: failure to me doesn’t exit! A relationship finishing is not the F word but rather a pass to proceed to the next level with lessons learned!
Knowing that you’re with a great person is one thing but the question is do you make a good pair? Meeting amazing people is easy sometimes but the perfect match for us depends on the mirroring of our Values, Lifestyles and Goals. You need to be on the same page when it comes to the proverbial “VLG” as chemistry only works so far!

A partner that you want for life is a person who is committed to you and to your relationship. Some say you have to give 50-50 but the truth is you both have to give 100% for success! It should feel natural and easy to be together and even though relationships do take “work” it should feel more like a “labor of love” and worth the effort. You will feel that you can work through anything together knowing you are safe and secure which is priceless.

Karl: “As soon as I met her, I knew there was something different and she was just easy going and the relationship from the beginning was very easy and it just came naturally.”

Cheryl: “That’s what a relationship is all about, its bringing out the best in each other and allowing that best of the other person to come out and develop and grow and live the life you’re’ supposed to live and the other person is supposed to; we’re supposed to witness each other developing and growing… that’s love, that’s what love is all about.”

Nobody is perfect, including yourself but you know you’ve met your partner when you’re loved for your imperfections. A good partner is one that accepts you for who you are. A great partner, on the other hand, not only loves and accepts you for who you are, but also supports you through everything and pushes you to be your best self. You know you’ve met THE ONE when they make you want to be better; they make you strive to be the best version of yourself.

Choosing “the one” doesn’t mean perfect person as there is no such individual!

Julie: “we all have this ideal person lodged in our mind, that perfect person for us…that person is really a fantasy and every real live person you meet out there is in direct competition with that fantasy image and I encourage you all not to get caught tin this trap.”

We are living in a world where options are constantly distracting us from focusing on something that could be worth holding onto and nurturing.

Cheryl: “Life and love is something that blooms; and we have to tend to it, we have to take care of it, we have to fertilize it, we have to weed our gardens, we pull off the petals if we want new bloom on roses as they die we trim things back and when we’re lucky, they bloom bigger stronger and that’s really what relationships are all about.”

“Fear is something that is there to keep us safe. Love is not always safe, we risk our broken hearts… but it’s worth it because with that risk we might just end up with “THE ONE” perfect flower.”

If you need any dating advice, please do not hesitate to reach out to me 1-844-744-SOLO (7656)

Cheryl xo