How to Become Your Own Matchmaker in 4 Steps
How to Become Your Own Matchmaker
Are you back in the dating scene and feeling overwhelmed? Are you healing from a toxic relationship? Do you feel like you’re always attracting the wrong type of person? Do you feel like the dating game just isn’t working out for you? We are going to give the key fundamentals to becoming your own matchmaker…
1. Gain Perspective
Your perspective on relating, dating and mating becomes hazy after getting out of a long relationship or after consistent dating. You might be wondering what the first step is to fix this. The answer lies in taking a break from the dating game. The time frame may differ from person to person and experience to experience, but the solution remains the same – time and distance. When you take a break, your mind clears up and you gain perspective. With clarity and perspective, you can easily identify the red flags in a potential mate that you previously overlooked. This knowledge will help you pinpoint the traits in a potential mate that will lead to a lasting relationship – exactly how a Matchmaker would.
Annick Robinson: “When you leave a relationship you need to take time to find yourself again, learn to be happy on your own before getting into another relationship especially when you are looking for that strong long life partner”
2. Put Yourself First
Take time for yourself. Use this as an opportunity to be completely selfish. Put yourself first, practice self-care and treat yourself well. This step requires you to enter a relationship, not with another man or woman but with yourself. Dress up, go out, wine and dine yourself. The best part about this point is, there exists zero compromise. You do exactly what you want and you want without answering to anyone but yourself. In sum, practice self-love because if you don’t love yourself, you will never be able to give love and receive love.
Genevieve Roy: “You have to get out of your comfort zone, put yourself out there, and meet new people in different circles. When you feel happy and confident in your life, you give out positive energy which draws people towards you. It is best to meet people when you are in a good place in your life”
3. Know Yourself
When you date yourself, you’ll get to know the real and genuine you. Practice self-reflection at this stage and constantly ask yourself what you want in your dating life. Matchmakers know their clients and know what traits will create the most compatible matches. If you truly know yourself, what you want – your deal breakers and deal makers – then you will be able to successful match yourself.
Cheryl: “A relationship should always reflect your values, lifestyle and goals. Communication is key in any relationship. You have to know your own values in order to attract the right person for you. Love your life and you will get your love life”
4. Intention
This step requires you to proceed in your dating life with intent and passion. Know what you want and don’t ever settle for less. If you’re out on a date and a red flag emerges, do not throw caution to the wind and never compromise your values.
Adamo Mariani: “You have to work on yourself. It’s easier to know what you don’t want as you can’t live with certain things in a relationship. You are a magnet of the good things that happen in your life, be a magnet for positive energy and you will attract the right things and the right people”
On May 14th, do not miss your opportunity to learn how to Become Your Own Matchmaker from the host of Solo in The City, Cheryl Besner at her “Become Your Own Matchmaker: 4 signature step Masterclass” at Avanti Le Spa (6900 Decari Boulevard, Côte Saint-Luc).Tickets can be purchased HERE: http://bit.ly/2pWGzcC
If you want dating advice do not hesitate to CALL me 1-844-744-SOLO
Cheryl xo.
