5 Things Women Do To Push Men Away
Have you ever been in a relationship with a man and want to take things to the next level? You want a commitment but don’t seem to see him stepping in that direction.The question is, are you aware some of the mistakes you may make that could have your man running for the hills instead of heading in the direction you want? Towards you!
That’s why I have decided to guide you on how to get the relationship you want without tripping over your own good intentions.
So many relationships don’t get to the exclusive level because of a vibe that women inadvertently give off in their quest for commitment. You need to be aware of a few of the major game changers that could mean the difference between being the one he desires and can’t be without or being the woman without.
1) The ultimatum! Ladies, I don’t have to say much more than…”YOU ARE HISTORY “. No one likes being threatened and trust me….as those words are spewing out of your mouth, he is remembering scenes of high school and of his mother telling him if he doesn’t pass the math test he will be grounded.
2) Often, when women are in a relationship they drop their complete social/ personal life and sit around waiting for their man to call. This is a huge mistake. Men see a needy, clingy individual. They start to worry that your entire existence will rotate around this relationship and that is a huge responsibility for anyone. Men love independent women who choose to make room in their life for someone. Being a priority to a partner is how everyone wants feel in a committed relationship but being the sole reason for living can be a burden and suffocating.
3) The cold shoulder ” I don’t really care” routine is just that… a routine! Men remember their childhood and know when a woman is upset. Flashbacks of little girls sticking out their tongues at them when they only meant she had a huge crush on the him. Fact is, men connect on a very deep level when falling in love and need to have the warmth of our interaction to remain engaged. Going cold causes the energy to close up between you and then he loses the connection that you have built up to this point.
4) Trying too hard to make it happen. Sometimes in an effort to move the relationship into a committed one, a woman will start to act as if exclusivity has already been determined. A woman might start moving clothes into his apartment, or reaching out to his family and friends as if they have been together for years. It’s the old “fake it till you make it” scenario and as a woman who endorses that concept general, in this case it will not work. A man will only commit when he feels it’s the right time and while there is no harm in subtle nudges ( that’s another topic and part of Mission to Love program) you must know the difference between moving forward and trying too hard to force the issue.
Last but not least…
5) the jealousy card! All I will say is …. NEVER try this-as trust will be forever broken. Above all else a man needs to feel safe with the woman he loves and with jealousy, you will have blown that one big time.
-Cheryl xo
