Playing Hard To Get

Why is it some women believe that the way to attract a man is to play the ” you can’t catch me” game? We are not kids in a playground playing tag!

Men are hunters, but most won’t pursue a woman they think they can’t get! There needs to be a balance between being too available and needy versus out of radar range.

Although at the outset, playing hard to get can spice things up a little, you have to be very cautious as to the length of time you do this. Too much or too little will most likely not end well if you really are interested in someone.

A decent and worthwhile man will chase a woman who he deems as high-value but he won’t waste time racing after a woman just for hell of it if the catch doesn’t seem viable. If a guy is into a woman that plays hard to get (saying no but hinting yes!) he may not be the most honest and open guy to begin with.

You often hear people say, “I am not into games”, because as life keeps moving on, nobody wants to waste time, as we realize it is a precious commodity. I am not saying that leaving a bit of mystery in the situation is a bad thing, but being too obscure can also be a huge turn off. It can result in sending the wrong message, and if you were into him, you might just miss this boat.

At this stage, most men prefer simple honesty. If you are interested in dating then it is much better to just say so. If not, then a simple no is the mature thing to do. Being a bit vulnerable and showing that you are interested can translate into letting him know that he is on the right track.

You should still have standards and not appear too eager, as this sends out a message that you are selective and worth his time.Give him guidelines of how you would like to be pursued and the instinctive “provider” in him will behave in the manner you have set out…every time

Don’t be afraid to show your worth by being a tad unavailable, but be careful not to take that too far. When the time is right, let him know that you are interested so that you can explore this connection and maybe end up with the man of your dreams.

-Cheryl xo