Cheryl Besner: Five ways to meet “The One”

The most common question I receive from people over 40 is “How and where can mature singles meet new people?” This question is usually followed up with “I don’t want to hang out in bars and be surrounded by my children and their friends.” The dilemma we face is that there are few distinct meeting places geared to mature individuals looking to expand their social circles.

When people are in their 20s, they meet either in college, through friends, sports or, for some, nightclubs. Everyone is single, so it’s easy to mingle! Later in life, however, we are not part of a large community like school; many of our friends are either married or committed, so meeting through friends becomes challenging; and we all agree that the bar scene is not where we want to be!

So, what to do?

The answer is twofold. The first thing to remember is that anywhere you go can be an opportunity to meet new people – you simply have to be open to it. The second is to identify the kind of person you hope to meet and go to where you imagine they would spend their time.

Here are 5 simple things you can do to meet The One :

1) Do you wake up every day, head to the coffee shop, grab your morning brew, and quickly dash off to work? Instead, give yourself an extra 15 minutes to scout the room and approach a table with an open seat. Sit and enjoy the moment – you never know where a conversation may lead! Even if your tablemate is of the same sex, they may have a friend or a relative who would be perfect for you to meet.

2) Shake up your routine. If you go to the gym every day at 7 AM, try going at 6 PM. As the clientele differs with the time of day, so do the dynamics of the room – and possibly your chances of meeting someone new! Tip the scale in your favour (and I don’t mean the one you stand on!)

3) Stay alert. Realize that every effort helps – even walking down the street with your head up instead of looking into your phone. You never know when you might walk by a potential mate!

4) Make date night a part of your life. Take one night a week and go out by yourself. No excuses; no “I’m too busy and don’t have time”! If you meet someone, you would be making time for them, so do it for yourself. Each time, create a scenario that welcomes someone to join you – the flip side to point number one at the coffee shop. Maybe a future date night will see that seat beside you at the table will get taken!

5) Identify the kind of person you wish to meet, and where you imagine they will be. If you want to meet a business-focused person, find out where the power breakfasts, lunches, and 5a7s happen in your community. If you want to meet someone more creative and artsy, get yourself on the guest list to several galleries in your city and attend their vernissages.

Now, get up, get out and get ACTIVE!  It’s all up to you!

If you want advice on how to  help yourself  create a personal  path to meeting The One, write to me at info@solointhecity.tv, or call my hotline: 1-844-744-SOLO. I can help you discover ways to improve your social and romantic life in no time!

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– Cheryl xo