How to Transform “ME” into “WE”
1. Don’t Be Too Picky
It’s definitely okay to be picky and know what you want but you have to be able to identify when you’re being curious or when you’re being critical. Simply defined, curiosity is that eagerness to know more, to dig, ask questions and find answers. When your heart is on the line, you definitely should ask the right questions to ensure you do not risk unnecessary heartbreak. In this regard, curiosity is in play to identify and avoid red flags, deal breakers and deal makers. On the other hand, being critical involves expressing or formulating adverse or disapproving thoughts. In this instance, if you’re being critical, you are actually searching for faults and may actually be projecting negative traits that might not exist. If you are too critical of your potential mate, you may overemphasize the negative traits and miss the positive attributes. You risk throwing away a potentially compatible partner.
Cheryl: “What questions are you asking? Ask the questions, what do you have in common, first step is to establish your values, lifestyle and goals, make that mental note for yourself, write it down, take time to evaluate who you are and how you want to live”
Eramelinda: “If you don’t ask questions, if you let questions simmer, it affects you and that person, when you ask your questions and get answers, then you can move forward.”
2. Identify your Blind Spots
If everything is going well in your dating game but you always seem to encounter road blocks at a certain stage, you might have a blind spot. The way to move past this obstruction is to identify if a pattern exists. If your relationships always fail at a certain point, there might be a pattern. Once you identify your blind spots, find out how you can learn from past mistakes and avoid making them in the future. Identify patterns, learn from past mistakes, grow and improve your dating life.
Cheryl: “We can’t change who we are, you have to be honest in your relationship, especially with yourself.”
3. Romance Marketing Plan
Creating your romance marking plan is your first step to making it from ME to WE. When you clearly outline your goals and proceed with intent, you will be able to maximize your time and ensure you date efficiently. First step to creating your Romance Marketing Plan is to imagine the best version of yourself and list off your best qualities. Dress the way your best self would dress, talk the way your best self would talk, be Super YOU! Role play with a mirror, experiment and go for it! Secondly, it’s not enough to just be complacent with your network. Open yourself up to new possibilities, friendships and connections. Say YES more often, be social, communicate and engage with people. No more hiding. Thirdly, stand out in a sea of eligible bachelors and bachelorettes. Avoid being boring and go for the extraordinary. What is original and unique about you? Capitalize on the traits that make you one of a kind. Most importantly of all, have a positive outlook and you will attract positive energy.
Eramelinda: “If you want to be happy in life, you have to be happy with yourself first, you have to be honest and you also can’t judge.”
Cheryl: “Leave the expectations at the door and make no assumptions as most people do, you have to ask the questions. People are afraid to ask questions because people are afraid of the answer.”
Cheryl: “What you can fight for is the love and relationship that you want. There are no guarantees in life, you have to TRUST yourself and go for it.”
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Cheryl xo.
